AITAH for resenting my wife?

I (27f) am married to (24f) let’s call her Nicole. Now if you’ve read my other posts you will see how much she stresses me out. Our relationship is strained even though I try not to show it much but she’s really getting on my nerves. A lot has happened since I last posted. My wife found out she has PCOS and since she has a heart condition that can affect her breathing ability and could possibly kill her if she even tries to have kids. So we came to the conclusion that I’ll carry two children and then we will either foster or try to adopt. My wife also recently got a good paying job and great hours only issue is she constantly complains about it and even said an I quote “If the baby didn’t need stuff I would have quit by now.”

She’s basically lazy cause even on her days off I’m the one that’s always taking care of the baby and playing with her. I’m a stay at home mom and I wouldn’t change anything about it. I love spending time with my daughter and I love being able to have a strong relationship with her. But my wife seems to think that I can magically respond to her messages if I’m taking care of the baby which in fact is crawling and trying to walk so she needs to be observed even more! My wife doesn’t see that or I don’t think she cares about. I have this issue where if I’m stressed I pull out my eyelashes and I’ve noticed that my wife is always the issue behind it cause she just constantly complains about her job and she only just started to work there! I’m tempted to tell her mother about how her daughter is making me feel but I don’t know if I can trust her!

I’m constantly considering divorce cause all she does is complain. But I’m absolutely terrified of being a single mother trying to raise a baby on my own. Not to mention most people wouldn’t even date a woman knowing she has a baby. I want to cry but I can’t. If she loses this job I’m going to divorce her cause this is getting ridiculous. She has had multiple jobs in the past and always finds a way to quit (a few of them were reducing her hours so it made sense to look for a new job with better pay). Another thing is I don’t know why she is complaining! She used to like this job and said that it was fun but it’s like if one bad thing happens then she’s a moody bitch. I really don’t know what to do?

So AITAH?