AlAnon is not a place for support

I am so beyond dissapointed with AlAnon, calling it a support group for victims of alcoholics is a blatant lie and it's nothing more than just another outlet making excuses for alcoholic's abusive and psycopathic behaviour whilst pushing people to be a part of what could easily be described as a religious cult.

I have been in an abusive relationship with an Alcoholic for nearly 2 years now. I have endured endless lies and deceptions, manipulation and a lot of abuse. I have spent hours/days/months attempting to support someone I loved who I foolishly believed gave a shit about me.

I finally got her into AA and whilst it has managed to keep her sober for a little while now it all just seems like an exercise in making the alcoholic feel better about their psycopathic behaviour and in no way does anything to help their victims.

I have attempted to engage with AlAnon several times and it's nothing more than a bunch of devestated people being offered nothing constructive and just pushed towards accepting abusive behaviour and excusing it.

When you sit in on an open AA meeting what do you see? A bunch of horrible people who are happy and enjoying their little group that does nothing but justify and excuse their abuse. Conversely AlAnon is full of devestated people, victims of abuse, many of which have cut all contact with alcoholics for decades but are still no better off and continuing to suffer trauma every day.

After joining AA my partner has had people tripping over themselves to offer support and sentiments designed to do nothing but diminish her accountability for her actions. AlAnon on the other hand, I've worked up the courage to share several times and spoken about how traumatised I am, how I can't sleep or function, how alone and isolated she has intentionally made me and how I have no one to support me. And what happens at the end of every meeting? Everyone leaves and not a single person even offers to talk further or suggest somewhere I can get help.

I am so over this nonsense about alcoholism being a disease and that they are powerless over their "illness". That is just totally crap, these people are largely psycopaths who have spent their lives screwing over and abusing everyone who cares for them, without remorse, in order to fulfil any and every selfish whim.

These people do not deserve sympathy or understanding and by and large all the 12 steps are is pointers for psycopaths to better enable them to manipulate and decieve their future victims.