I don’t like how APs always contradict themselves - AM wants me to meet more people

My mom is always telling me to go out and socialize. Okay, fair. It’s not just her being worried about me finding a Chinese husband, she also wants me to have more Chinese friends my age. Again, fair.

The problem is we never see eye to eye.

I told her the best way to meet people is sports. I met some nice older sister figures while doing sports. She’s like, “Stop doing sports, you’re ruining your skin.” Context: I usually have flawless skin, but I got stressed with work so I recently got very small tiny colorless bumps on my forehead. She told me I need to wait months for the bumps to go away or else I’ll repel any potential new friends or men. 💀

At the same time, she’ll tell me to join dance studios with older moms and aunties so I get to know more people. But I also can’t do it just yet, since my skin isn’t perfect yet.

Now, she wants me to join those China / Taiwan tour things to meet more people. I told her that 1) I’m not willing to use up all my office leaves for that and 2) If she’s hoping for me to meet the love of my life there, it’s like 90% girls and 10% dudes. She told me she wants me to meet more Chinese people my age, period.

However the places I met the most people are when I did sports and stuff but she doesn’t want me to do it because 1) it’s dangerous (for example, climbing) and 2) it’s bad for the skin and 3) I need to clear my skin first lest I scare away people.

I am also ready for her to scold me when she realizes I made non-Chinese friends. I remember I went to a Chinese church coz she forced and she got so mad when I had a new friend group that was all homeschooled Chinese girls (note: mom is the Protestant, I’m Catholic and everyone there secretly hated Catholics lol). And when I do a new sport she’ll scold me if my new friends are not Chinese BECAUSE wow we live in a Southeast Asian country, ofc there aren’t enough Chinese people.

So how tf will I meet more people if she’s like this? 💀