Stories of Reformed Raja Betas/Mummas boys

Raja Beta syndrome/Mummas boys /emotional incest between mother and son seems to be an epidemic in our culture, and often time it’s treated as an incurable thing. I’m curious if stories of Raja Betas that reformed either before or after dating or marriage, and what led them to reform, and learn how to draw healthy boundaries with their parents.

Women- do you have a brother, friend, relative, partner, father or son who was once a Raja Beta but stopped being so? What changes did he make to become less enmeshed?

Men- were you a former Raja Beta? What led you to realize you had an enmeshed relationship with your mother, your relationship with your parents was unhealthy, was it before or after marriage, how did you learn to draw boundaries?