This is a repost. The original was posted in r/amiwrong by User biggoofydoofus. I'm not the original poster.

Status: Concluded.

Original

March 11, 2025

This is stupid.

Married 20 years, 2 kids 7 and 2.

Early in my relationship my wife (then gf) would ask for flowers or things like that for whatever reason women want things like that from their bf. Me, being a broke college kid that came from near-poverty, I had a HARD time spending money on something that wouldn't last, so we fought over it until a balance was reached. I would buy flowers for her. When we got married, for the first year I would by her a small gift every month on the 10th, our anniversary is June 10. It was a way to tell her how much I loved her, especially since that first year was so VERY hard for us. I got used to buying flowers or other little trinkets. some were dumb, some she still has. Even now, if i give her something for no reason, I try to do it on the 10th.

Well fast forward some years and I give my then 3 yr old flowers and she now thinks any I bring in are for her.

Now here's my problem. I brought some flowers home last weekend when I went grocery shopping. (if anyone can tell me why grocery store flowers last longer than the ones from a specialty florist I would be grateful.) My wife immediately said thank you for "MY flowers". It was the 7th. The girls, when they saw them, thought the flowers were for them. Truth is, over all this time, I have started really liking having the splash of color in the house. I really bought them for myself, and even if neither my wife or my daughters were around, I would still buy myself flowers.

Anyway am I wrong for not coming clean about why I buy the flowers?

Consensus: Not in the wrong. People point out he could take two flowers from the bouquet for his daughters and give the rest to his wife, or start to keep potted flowers as a family activity.

Update

March 16, 2025, 4 days later

Probably could've added this to the other post, but didn't try.

Y'all. She found the post. Well she didn't find it, her friend did. I put a little too much personal info in it and a friend we've had since college figured it out and showed Wifey. So Hi, Becca. thanks for ratting me out.

She was not amused that I told complete strangers about us, but at the same time found the whole thing hilarious. Weird, right? Anyway, after she could get her laughter under control she admitted that she knows. She has always known. Wifey told me that around our 3rd year of marriage, she realized that she likes the knickknacks that I would get her more than the flowers, but realized that I like them so has just gone along with it cause it made me happy. I really love this woman.

Also, for all those that said I'm doing a horrible job raising my kid, that she's spoiled or going to turn our rotten or something. Stop it get some help. (i would put in a link to the meme, but i don't want to)

And for those that complained that this was pointless or unnecessary or whatever. You're right it was. I literally put that the whole thing is stupid in the first sentence. But there is a LOT of bad going on in the news right now and many people on this sub spend a lot of time doom scrolling or trainwreck watching and I just wanted to put into the world something innocent and nice and maybe not so dark. Am I wrong about that?

I'm not the original poster.