How do they feel after they breakup with you?

She told me months to change and I never did. The changes were apparently me talking to her with a lack of effort and not taking her on dates anymore or not being on her level or not emotionally mature enough.

Without a doubt she has bpd or is a narc some major issues.

She still has things at my house that she’s planning to pick up and we caught up not long ago to exchange items and She seems like her life is doing great now. New hobbies and a full time job and bedroom is well organised.

Annoying since I had the jobless gf and the one that had barely any motivation but now she’s (free) from my toxic ways she’s doing great.

Anybody relate?