Why are they treating me this way

Why are my brother and father treating me this way?

Ok I’ve been saved for 25 years. I haven’t been a member of a church for about 15 years. I’ve been attending one church but I haven’t joined. They’re kind of strict. You can’t wear pants at church if you’re a woman. You can’t wear colored nail polish 💅 to church. They go by levitiacal laws. I asked my brother so I can’t be saved if I don’t have a pastor. He said no. My own brother said I can’t be saved without a pastor. Yet he’s struggled with sexual sins he and my father both have. Yet I HAVE NOT!!! I’m so offended. I’ve stayed saved all this time. Never backslid. I’ve never had a boyfriend or husband nothing. The reality is I may never. E married or have a boyfriend. I just need some encouragement. I’m feeling so defeated and judged. The pastor I’ve gone to has made fun of me literally laughed at me. My dad asked this pastor to become a member and he said no he didn’t feel my dad was saved enough to go to his church. By the way I go to PAW church. This same pastor yelled stop when I was bringing my offering down to the pulpit. I’ll never forget that. Other times a lady who goes there refused to give me a Sunday school book. Yes I struggle with test and trials on my job as a medical assistant. My coworkers have even started cutting slashes in my coats. They’ve trashed me to the doctors as well so they don’t want to work with me.