How many of you became codependent because of abuse?

Seeing yourself as codependent can be helpful, but some of us are actually abuse victims. Just mentioning that because looking at it through the lens of abuse--understanding the relationship, cycle, power dynamics, etc.--is really important for healing.

I was not codependent at all before being abused by a cult leader.

Some people who are codependent had a narcissistic parent that forced them to downplay or ignore their own needs.