People are allowed to masturbate.

Both LL and HL people are allowed to masturbate. Masturbation is private and it is totally acceptable to do it. Yes, even if you’re not interested in sex. Yes, even if you really love sex.

When I see a lot of mad HL people on here not understand when they find out their LL partner masturbates, I become frustrated because everyone has the right to touch themselves and also it’s okay to not be up for the social aspect of sex. What’s the core difference between masturbation and sex? The social part. The part the HLs are often craving.

I understand why HLs may feel slighted, after all, their partner is doing a sexual act but not involving the HL. However, masturbation and sexual libido are not the same thing. Masturbation is easy because there’s no social pressure, it can be done however short or long you want it to be, and it follows your own fantasy. People who are ‘touched-out’, often still enjoy masturbation. They just don’t want someone else to touch them. Sex is connection and social. It requires back and forth, and physical touch. Which is obvious. But, it’s not weird to like masturbation but not be into sex. Asexual people often masturbate. Just because they may not want to be tossed on a bed and slammed by someone doesn’t mean their sexual organs don’t exist anymore.

Masturbation is for everyone who wants to do it.

EDIT: Lots of mad HL people, which I predicted. I made this post after reading a post a man made about how he berated his wife for using her vibrator and demanded to know the details such as when she used it, why she used it, etc. and laid into her over it. And I’ve seen many many many posts going “Why does my partner masturbate when they could have sex with me???” And my post answers that. Important: I have been both HL and LL before. I’m a longtime member of this sub. I’m not new to this. I have been hurt by how I perceived my partner’s masturbation and also by the reality of our sexless relationship. People in the comments seem to believe that I don’t know what the pain is like and I do. I dealt with it for years. But, I fixed my problem by dumping the guy, becoming LL because of the hurt I experienced, staying LL for years, and then finding a guy I connect with amazingly and I have my libido and I see that continuing.