Why do people like Luke?
Ok so I don't mean to be a hater because I do love this show, but I despise Luke with a passion and I'm begging someone to convince me to actually ship him and Lorelai because I cannot figure out why anyone would. Let me explain my reasoning and plz don't hate me for my harsh verbiage :)
- He has anger issues.
I get it's a show so things are exaggerated, but Luke has been a literal raving lunatic time and time again, to the point where it's clear he needs psychiatric help - he also does nothing for these anger issues during the entirety of the show, so one can deduce that he's going to keep being obnoxious with no consequences. He screams at people for no reason, yells at Lorelai for minor relationship problems, physically ejects people from his diner, and always resorts to physical or verbal violence instead of being a mature adult. If he was a real person, he would have no friends and would likely be in jail for assault. Why does he get a pass for his psychotic behavior by the people in town? He's literally a manchild who throws temper tantrums on the daily.
- He literally does the bare minimum and gets praised for it.
I saw a comment in this sub about how "Luke doesn't speak his affection, he shows it by fixing things/being handy and helping people in need." Um.....this is literally what should be expected of any human being; to help people that need it, and to perform acts of service for the ones you love. If he did just the "romantic" things he does with none of the other negative aspects of his personality, he'd still just be mediocre at best. But he's aggressive, grumpy, and boring, which cancels out any "building" or "fixing" he does. Everything he does that is considered "cute," like him agreeing to be part of Lorelai's Halloween display, he makes SO clear he will hate doing it the entire time. I for one think the mark of a good partner is someone who rarely makes you feel like you're forcing them to do something, doesn't just moan and sigh the whole time (like Luke in Martha's Vineyard).
- He's boring.
Literally what even is his personality? What are his hobbies? Fishing and ranting? He rarely says anything intentionally humorous, never makes references (probably because he never reads), doesn't seem to appreciate or maybe even understand Lorelai and Rory's sense of humor, and doesn't enjoy going to any events, ever.
- He is trash at communicating.
Honestly towards the middle/end of the series Luke and Lorelai's relationship is emotionally abusive because he doesn't tell her anything, conceals things even though he simultaneously reprimands Lorelai for concealing much more minor things, and yells at her whenever she tries to be a part of his life whatsoever.
- Luke and Lorelai have literally nothing in common.
I always see comments like "He's Lorelai's dream guy." How?? How is he anyone's dream guy? When they're together, they're either arguing, sleeping, or having the most boring conversation known to man. She even becomes less funny when she's with him, because she doesn't have someone to riff with.
- He's not romantic in the slightest.
Aw wow he built Lorelai like 3 things during the entire course of their friendship/relationship! And he saved a horoscope! Get me to the altar right now! Like the bar needs to be raised sooo much if the measly amount of things Luke does is considered swoon-worthy. Plus the few things he does do he does so begrudgingly. If I was in a relationship with someone who was grumpy 85% of the time, never said anything romantic, yelled at me over minor disputes, never went places with me without complaining and being negative, and would just occasionally build me some sort of contraption, they would be single so fast.
- Luke, as well as his relationship with Lorelai, is toxic.
Please, for the love of God, explain to me why their argument about how Lorelai wants the exact same Jeep is considered "cute." First of all, he doesn't understand her attachment to her current Jeep - I personally think it's kinda cute when your partner understands you - maybe that's just crazy 'ol me. But then he's screaming at her when she's not even being unreasonable, and that's "adorable?" Count me out; I think supportive and understanding relationships are better than toxic, verbally abusive ones.
Anyway I fully expect to be downvoted to oblivion but I truly am open to hearing arguments, I've just yet to hear one that doesn't make me think "Ok?? Literally anyone would do that?" but I would love to become a Luke fan because my hatred for him makes me not even appreciate scenes he's in - I just seriously hate Luke just like most people hate Taylor. I'm ofc open to counterarguments :)