Crate training

Is 9 weeks too young to start crate training? We tried starting day one and it was a nightmare. No one for any sleep. Just howling, high pitch screaming, scratching and going absolutely insane. Iv crate trained other dogs before, but at a much older age and they never did this. I overnighted a snuggle puppy for night 2 and we THOUGHT it was going absolutely amazing! Turns out he got out he wasn’t even in the crate the whole time. Opened our bathroom door and he was just chilling in there on the rug. No accidents. Tried crate all throughout day and night again and freaks out. He is absolutely fine laying next to us but if in the crate. He’s nuts. We have tried to ignore ect. But it’s more than just whining and barking. He seriously sounds like he is in distress in there. We may have messed up idk. But we needed some sleep and caved night 3. He slept in the dog bed between us in bed. Not a peep out of him from 9pm until 3am. Nudged my face at 3 am to go potty and went right back to sleep. Idk what to do. Some sites say don’t let them scream because it could develop create anxiety. Some say ignore it. I’m terrified to do the wrong thing. I have had a major fear/reactive/anxiety/aggressive dog in the past, and have major ptsd from it. I don’t want to “trigger” anything with new pup. Is it normal for them to scream like a banshee?