How do you guys split holidays with families?

Pre-kids of course. When I have children I will be with my children lol.

My husband and I just got married early this year and I’m starting to stress out about holidays. Christmas is fine because my family has always celebrated on Christmas Eve and his family on Christmas Day…. But in terms of Thanksgiving, Easter, New Year’s Day, I’m worried some issues will arise 🥴

For context we live in the same city as my husband’s parents which is new this year. We used to live within a few hours driving distance to both sets of parents, so in years past we would just split up since we weren’t married. I’d go home, and he’d go home. Or occasionally I would scramble to make both, but timing doesn’t always work out considering we both have siblings who split holidays with their partners too.

ANYWAY now that we’re married I’d really like to stay together. However, I know that both moms will be offended if we don’t attend their holiday. I feel like my mom gets the short end of the stick a lot given we don’t live near her, so it makes me sad to not see her and my siblings for holiday since I don’t see them as often as my in laws (which is every week, or more). But I know it’s only fair to have to alternate.

How do you guys make this work if your parents aren’t in the same city? Thank you!!!