“narcissists cannot be self aware”

i feel very weird. a psychiatrist on tiktok live was saying that narcissists can never ever be self aware. “a narcissist who wonders how narcissistic they are isn’t a narcissist, and a narcissist who knows they are one isn’t a narcissist either.

narcs could never get diagnosed with npd bc they will never agree to see a psychiatrist and those who are diagnosed were struggling with something else and it just turned out to be narcissism.”

indeed, there are npds who aren’t self aware and/or do not admit it, like my father. but it’s about every pd? narcissists aren’t an exception, yet we’re the most toxic ones

tf, are we just cooperatively pretending ? has he ever heard about therapy and getting better?? even if i don’t want to change and i don’t feel guilt for what i do, at least now i understand that my actions and behaviors may be toxic, manipulative and hurt others. it doesn’t mean i’m willing to change at this moment but it means that i can try to act differently with those who i am willing to care for. it’s hard for me to care about people in general but i’m WILLING to care for my family and friends

i thought he was a nice and very much a competent psych so i asked him “what’s one advice you can give to pw-npd. we are stigmatized and dehumanized”

he read the first part and said sum about uselessness of advices. then he read the second part and said: “ WE are stigmatized and dehumanized it means you think you have npd. a pw-npd would never talk about them being a narcissist, narcissists cannot be self aware blah blah blah»

paradoxically it touched my ego