has anyone been able to successfully use cannabis in moderation?

i've seen this topic brought up before but i haven't really found any satisfying answers, not sure if it's even possible (for me at least)

day 3 of working towards beating a strongly formed habit of using every day for years with very few breaks. i would like to one day bring her back into my life, ideally in a similar way i use all other drugs including alcohol. which is maybe once a month but generally rare, and are not something i normally crave or have issues with

the thing is when i have not been using THC for awhile, and then try it again, i get so fkn high. basically a psychedelic trip, which is not what i enjoy about THC. my favorite way to use it is heavily saturating my body to build a medium tolerance and then maintain that level. when i take a hit with medium tolerance it's perfect for me, almost similar to a nicotine high in a way that i'm not stoned out of my mind but still feel damn good

riding that fine line of mid level tolerance always slips into heavy usage over a couple weeks/months, which then leads me right back to putting it away for awhile and the cycle continues!

now that I've typed this out it kinda sounds like i should probably stay away from it lol. but again, has anyone been successful in using with a mid level tolerance? any tips?