(TW: death) Found out this evening that a student at the school I'm subbing at tomorrow passed away over the weekend
As the title says.
(I don't know how much advice etc I need, but could be way wrong. I think going into tomorrow the biggest thing I need with the post is a place to just freak out and panic a little bit)
My daughter goes to this school, so I get parent emails. This evening, all parents got an email from the Principal informing us that a student died suddenly this weekend, and encouraged us to talk to our students before tomorrow morning.
I'm devastated and heartbroken to hear the news about this student. I know their friends and peers will be having a super rough time, as will the teachers, staff, and admin.
My daughter didn't know them or have classes with them, so she's ok, but I'll be continuing to check in with her occasionally over the next days and weeks. Generally though, the "being a dad" side of things is taken care of.
I know the best thing I can do as a sub tomorrow is to do my best to continue routine wherever possible, while at the same time not just ignoring that there's an empty chair in the classroom where this student usually sits. I know for a fact they would've been in at least one of my classes tomorrow. The school and district will be providing extra counselors on site, and if kids need, I'll send them there.
Today's when I realize the 30-minute "training" video we do at the start of the year about these situations are so inadequate. I'm sure I'll screw up somehow tomorrow, but I know we'll get through it.
It's going to be so hard, even just walking in, because generally there are teachers and admin giving fist bumps to the students (and subs!) as we walk in, with upbeat words about how great the day will be.
Tomorrow will not be a great day.
My only real actionable plan is to make sure and arrive extra early so that I can get any supplemental instructions I need from admin or the sub coordinator, follow those instructions, stay out of the way, and just be present and try to help the kids and school git through the day.
I talked to my brother, who is a teacher in another district, and I think his words are my best hope for tomorrow. He said "I hope you have the okay-est day possible tomorrow."
Thanks for letting me type all that out. It's heavy.