Nobody knows the meaning of marriage anymore.

I (29F) have been married to my husband (30M) since June of this year, so roughly five months, and the amount of people saying I need to divorce him because of our issues is insane.

He is a good man. He loves me and cares about our home and our son. He works and provides for us and allows me to stay home with the baby. I love him, we're attracted to each other physically, and we have a lot of the same mindsets and goals. He has his own way of showing his appreciation for what I do, but he does. He works hard and doesn't take any disrepect towards me or our family. He's tough and makes me feel safe.

We have issues, like any couple. I think he drinks too much. We fight sometimes. He thinks I don't know how to handle money. I think he doesn't eat enough. We don't spend as much time together since the baby was born, and we both have an issue with that. I don't like his mother. He doesn't like my sister. I think he's childish sometimes. He thinks I'm trying to hard to mother him. I think he's too gruff. He thinks I'm too sensitive.

Literally NONE of these issues are dealbreakers to me, or him. He doesn't beat me, he doesn't steal from me, he doesn't run the streets or stay out all night or cheat on me with other women. He's messy, but not disgusting. And none of the issues described are fundamental flaws that cannot be worked out or compromised on. We've only been married for five months!!! That's barely anything if your goal is a 30+ year relationship. And yet when I make the mistake of venting or complaining (in a healthy manner), everyone's first advice is "leave him".

That's pathetic, if you ask me, and the reason why so many people are miserable and single. I'm not saying you're obligated to adopt a project or make major compromises when you get with someone, but if you dip out at the first sign of trouble then you're never going to get anywhere. Yes, there's a such thing as being too picky. Yes, there's a such thing as copping out prematurely. If you demand perfection you're only ever going to be disappointed. And yeah relationships take WORK. Those relationships where everything is perfect and they never fight or have issues are unicorns at best.

Besides, I'm married to him. Unless things get dangerous for me or my child, leaving isn't even on the radar. Our instant gratification culture has made people allergic to working things out and communicating. I mean wtf, I see people advising divorce/separation because someone's husband/wife yelled at one of the children. IT. HAPPENS. Work it out, put systems in place, and GROW.

Otherwise get ready to be 40+ and single, emotionally stunted, and full of bitterness. Ironically, most of the people I know who have these impossibly rigid high standards are also the most miserable because they refuse to give anything a chance. Keep that over there, I prefer to be happy and realistic.

Edit: Lmao I should've known better than to post this on Reddit. The comments are literally just proving what I'm saying. For those of you saying I sound miserable - if I listed every single thing that he did that made me feel good we'd be here all day. I just picked a few positives and negatives to write but I forgot for half a second that everyone on here thinks they're a genie. Those of you who think I'm just trying to cope - wrong again, but thanks for playing. Also I'm not saying 40+ and single is bad, it's the bitterness and lonilness that I was trying to point out that many people like that feel as far as I can tell. But sure, nitpick.

The point I was trying to make was that relationships are work and no one seems to be willing to do the work. You did the work and it didn't work out? Life happens, good for you for leaving. All I'm saying is 5 months is way too soon to expect perfection and walk away if you don't get it. People who chrinically cycle through relationships, just admit you have commitment issues and don't waste the time of people who don't. That's all.