I feel deeply for Sarah Kim

For context: currently there’s tiktoker named Sarah Kim (@/hoemgirl) who is pregnant, working two full time jobs, doing all the cooking, cleaning, and household management, social media and podcast management, and is 8 years younger than her husband, while he is working non profit/pastor and isn’t providing for 2 whole years. Mind you, she is commuting for 2 hours on a train and drive by her dad every day to the station. She is the sole breadwinner in the family and there are tons of discourse about their recent podcast where they open up about finances and how marriage is hard (for her) and a lot of people mutually agree that he is a red flag.

As a single woman who has yet no responsibility because I still live with my parents and I get to do what I love and decide things for myself, I feel some sense of fear and empathy recognizing her case (my mom is also like her and our family had gone through poverty together), and basically how choosing your partner wisely is one of the most important decisions that can potentially alter your life and either improve you to be in better place/better person or make your life worse. Imagine having a partner who refused to do anything for you or lift of your weights and just overall very content about the circumstances because they lack self awareness and fail to see the severity of your burden. I am very curious about the topic around partner/parents who are lacking responsibility or struggling financially due to “laziness” and how that translates to their family/children.