How do you explain ADHD struggles to people who don't get it / don’t have ADHD?

I (26,F) have ADHD (plus anxiety & depression) .. it’s been really bad the last year or so, and one of the hardest parts is explaining my struggles to people in my life who don't experience it. Things like being late all the time, forgetting tasks even when they're important, getting easily overwhelmed, or struggling to start/finish things can come across as careless or lazy to people who don't understand ADHD. But the truth is, I don't want to be late to work, forget to pay a bill (even if it's on autopay which seems to not work), or drop the ball on things that matter. I try so hard to stay on top of everything, but my brain just doesn't process time, priorities, and memory the same way. I don't want it to sound like l'm making excuses—I take responsibility for my actions-but I also want people to understand that ADHD makes these things genuinely difficult.

If you've had to explain ADHD symptoms to your boss, family, or partner, what has worked for you?

How do you help people understand that it's not about being irresponsible or not caring?

Thanks ♡