No penetration? Hotter or not?

Hello ladies and gentlemen of AJ! Not my first post here but I want to know what is your take in no penetration sex.

Ok so hindi naman siguro sya fully no penetration at all. But for me kasi, I get more turned on and kinda more likely to cum when someone is just doing foreplay with me. Foreplay being anything under the sun without actually sticking it in. So maybe kissing, groping, touching, sucking, rubbing me with hands or genitals, or teasing me ganon. Tbh I am more likely to cum when a guy is rubbing his thing on me. But syempre that would be selfish and probably painful for the guy if they aren't able to come. Di naman pwede ako lang ang bida 😭

I saw a post here before na hindi daw sya nagc-cum if the guy actually sticks it in and if she does maybe a long time daw. I think ganon din ako tbh. It is hard for me to actually cum when something is inside. While it feels good (sometimes tbh), it also feels painful for me. Sobrang tense din kasi lagi ng katawan ko when it comes to penetration. May nagsabi sakin na ang sikip ko daw masyado 😭🙈 While it is a compliment, nahihirapan din ako mga mi! Ang hirap at ang sakit sometimes (most of the time) 😭😭😭

So ang question is: ladies of AJ, do you also feel the same way? And what are your tips to have more fun with penetration?