Don't tell them about ur future plans

Wallahi everyone, always think twice before telling your extended family about ur future plans and ur career, especially when it's a Pakistani family.

For context, I have chosen medicine as my profession becuz I genuinely took an interest after finishing my O levels (and watching house MD and Chicago Med lol). Now if you have a big fat desi family, you would know that half of them are prolly doctors which can be a good thing as well as a bad thing. Ever since I was young, i always had my older cousins telling me to never study medicine becuz it's "hard" and "draining" and I always told them "yes I'll never do Med since I have no interest!" Fast-Forward to 12 years later, I went to Pakistan back in December for a wedding alone (my parents came 4 days later) and my cousins picked me up from the airport. As soon as we sat in the car, we talked for a while until one of them asked me what I'm planning to do. I said I wanted to pursue medicine and they all looked at me as if I killed someone. They suddenly go like "speaking from experience, I suggest you reconsider becuz Med is hard and it will drain you!" I just laughed it off becuz I genuinely don't talk back to my elders and I didn't know what to do. My parents weren't there to back me up so I js kept my mouth shut. For the next 4 days, apparently I did the biggest mistake of telling people I wanna do Med and wanna study abroad after A levels and not in Pakistan. Istg everyone started guilt tripping me into applying to Pakistan becuz supposedly I'll be done earlier. Again I didn't have my parents beside me so I didn't say anything. Right after my parents arrived, everyone brain washed my dad into convincing me to either choose another profession or apply to Pakistan. Wallahi if I said I wanted to do fashion designing or culinary arts, they would have been disappointed at the fact I didn't choose medicine.

So fellow friends, never tell your extended family members what you're gonna study in the future becuz every desi family is nosy af and give you advices that they think are right. Follow your dream. Don't listen to em!