Online groups

Cant fit in online anymore

I feel like I'm constantly stuck in a cycle of trying so hard to make a good impression, but no matter what I do, it never seems to work out. It's as if there’s an invisible barrier between me and everyone else. I always second-guess myself—was it something I said? Did I laugh too loud? I can’t help but feel an overwhelming sense of anxiety whenever I’m in a group.

Every time I join a room full of people, my heart races, and my mind goes blank. I watch others effortlessly connect, share inside jokes, and form bonds, while I just stand there, feeling like an outsider peering in. I constantly ask myself, “Why can’t I just be normal? Why can’t I fit in like everyone else?” It's infuriating!

Then there’s that feeling of rejection that creeps in whenever I finally muster the courage to engage and somehow end up feeling left out. It’s as if the universe conspires against me. I can’t shake the thought that I’m just not enough—too awkward, too loud, too shy—all at the same time!

I get so frustrated when I see people casually moving from group to group, laughing and feeling comfortable in their own skin. I’m left wondering what their secret is. What do they have that I don’t? It’s exhausting trying to read the room, to laugh at the right moments, to share something witty without overthinking it. I just want to connect and belong somewhere, but it feels like every time I try, I end up getting ignored or pushed away.

It's hard not to take it personally, even though I know it often isn’t truly about me. Maybe others have their own struggles, but in those moments, it feels like I’m the only one who doesn’t get it. I just want to feel accepted and find my tribe, but getting to that point often feels impossible. It makes me question everything about myself. Am I too much? Am I not enough? Why is it so easy for everyone else?

I know I can’t be the only one feeling this way. It’s heavy to carry this constant feeling of being on the outside looking in. It would be nice to feel like I belong, even if just for a moment. I’m tired of feeling invisible; I want to be seen and appreciated for who I am. But how do I get there when it feels like such a lofty dream?

When I try to join a group online, I often feel kicked out after just a few days of speaking. It seems like I can't do anything right.