Am I doing something wrong?

I (28F) live and work in NYC and find dating to be so incredibly difficult?? I’ve tried the different apps. Tried giving people I wasn’t really into a shot to see if a connection could develop. I have dozens of matches on apps and have sent the first message and tried to engage. I’ve done all of this and can’t even get someone to grab a coffee or a drink with me. I’m not asking for roses and dinner on a first date so why is this so difficult? I even contacted a few matchmakers but I’m not trying to spend $3,000 bc that’s A LOT of money. The few men I’ve been on more than 3 dates with will send me some variation of “I can’t give you what you deserve” and disappear. I’m so lost and don’t know what else to do.