I keep attracting anxiously attached/needy men, what am I doing wrong?

Has anyone else in the dating game noticed that you repeat patterns of behavior or keep attracting the same patterns of behavior?

Mine is that I am attracting men who seem to be very anxiously attached and desperate. To the level where within a month they want an exclusive relationship and want me to "guarantee" them my time/dedication/devotion etc and in my opinion we JUST met and have so much to do in order to get to know each other. I am struggling to find someone who truly wants to move slowly and vet out each person they date as opposed to going off of those warm n fuzzy feelings and diving head first. In my experience that is just the head rush you get when you first crush on someone, and not at all indicative of your compatibility.

IMO I'd like to date someone for 6mos before moving into a committed relationship.

3.25 EDIT: Since my 6mos timeline triggers many of you 😆

Within 1 month typically I know if there is interest and potential for a future. 3ish mos I would feel comfy deciding to be "exclusive" in the sense that we aren't on the dating apps and shopping around for others. Then a couple more months of doing the relationship trial run we make it official and now my mom can meet you. Boom, 6mos in!

It often takes people 3-4mos of "acting" like the best candidate to be with before the facade falls. It can be scary. But that's why I like time to VET as much as possible. I want to know your credit score/retirement plan/career goals/where you see yourself in 2yrs-5yrs-10yrs/dream travel destination/greatest fears etc etc before ever becoming someone's Girlfriend. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk!