Household with two Feds. Anyone else?

We are a household with two federal employees in different agencies. You all have noticed how each agency has been handling things differently but at the end of the day we are under one big umbrella. Our family dynamic, schedules, finances all blown up by the RTO, our hearts/minds/bodies constantly fighting this feeling of despair & the fear of becoming a zero income household.

One of us has only been a Fed for 3 years & is considering going back to private. The feeling of security, work/life balance with WFH & honor has diminished. Going private would mean more money & at least one income coming from somewhere else but in the long run it will mean more work, more overtime, more assignment related stress.

We never ever ever thought we would be in this position. Having a household with two feds felt like a dream & truly something to be proud of…..now it feels like a nightmare.