Is this ghosting or pulling away? Confused.

I (30F) was seeing this guy (34M, divorced with two kids) in Edinburgh, and it felt promising—until it didn’t.

We matched on Hinge about a month ago, and things started off well. He asked me out on two dates, and they were lovely. He was thoughtful, kind, and seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me. After those two dates, he mentioned wanting to meet again soon, but then said he was “busy for two weeks.”

I understood and gave him space. But those two weeks have passed, and he hasn’t said a word about meeting up. I noticed he’d been coming online frequently on WhatsApp but would not respond to my messages right away - I thought okay, maybe he’s busy. But now, it’s been over two days since my last message, and he’s left me on read.

I feel so disheartened because I genuinely thought this connection had potential. I did not see or expect this coming at all. He even spoke about wanting to tell me a funny story the next time we met, just this Sunday. Now, I feel rejected and ghosted without closure. It’s making me question if I did something wrong or if I wasn’t good enough.

This is the first time I dated someone off Hinge and tbh, I’m scared to put myself out there again. I have been single for 4 years after being in a very bad abusive relationship, and this was my first attempt at dating. That too in a new foreign city. (I moved to Edinburgh for my Masters degree, btw - just setting my own context.)

I wanted to share this here to feel less alone because at this point, I’m just so ashamed of sharing this with friends or college-mates, lest they laugh at me or judge me.

Have any of you gone through something similar? How do you deal with the anxiety and rejection when someone you like just fades away like this? It’s a struggle navigating this with anxiety and ADHD. 😔