Is Marriage Always More Challenging for Women?

I often feel that women are in a more vulnerable position in marriage. They have to move, adapt to a new lifestyle, food, and culture. No matter if it’s a love or arranged marriage, many women face challenges with their in-laws, and if issues arise, they’re often expected to "adjust" since they are already part of the family.

Even when a husband supports his wife, sometimes he can't change the situation, especially in families where sons standing up for their wives isn’t well received. This isn’t about blaming in-laws or sons—every relationship is precious. But when a new member joins the family, how fair is it to expect only her to adjust?

Even within our own families, we don’t always agree with everyone, but we adjust because there’s mutual understanding. However, in marriage, the expectation seems to be that the wife must always accommodate others.

People often emphasize communication before marriage, but does it really address these things? Even if everything seems fine at first, reality can turn out differently. and when it does, the answer always seems to be that the wife has to "adjust."

Of course, not all marriages are like this. Some women are lucky enough to have understanding in-laws and a supportive partner who truly make them feel at home. But if we look at the bigger picture, those cases seem to be quite rare.

Also, I know people might say, "What about men? They suffer too." And yes, they do. But I just want to hear thoughts specifically on the struggles women face in marriage.

Am I wrong to think this way? As a woman, I just want to hear your thoughts on this. Do women always end up in a vulnerable position in marriage, no matter what? And is a happy marriage ultimately just a matter of luck?

Sorry for the long post, I just couldn’t say all of this in a few lines!