Church not for socializing...

Does anyone remember back in the 90s and early 2000s when a member or the entire family started to go inactive due to not having friends, a leader would criticize them and say, " church isnt for socializing it's to worship God" and " they just dont have a testimony of the church, we come to worship, not make friends." Or was this soemthing just I experienced in my wards growing up?

Also that when members get offended and go inactive it's because..."they are already looking for a reason to be offended."???

But ever since covid, GA leaders have emphasized as well as local leaders that copy what they hear, that we go to church to get he social aspect of worship???

Anyone have any memory, quotes, experience on any of this?