im a pan woman but i dont date cis men

hi, it's nothing like having a preference in a romantic way, i'm just terrified of cis men due to trauma and even some masc presenting people in general. i would just never date a cis man because they will just never understand some things and the different upbringing can just be seen through the roof so i wouldnt be able to form as strong as a connection - i would be forcing myself to like them. now of course this is a generalization and not all men are like that, but i just dont feel like finding that out so i leave them out of my dating pool. am i still pan/being a bigot in any way? please explain to me if i am as i dont want or intend to be.