Why are people such jerks about not liking your troubled teen?

I wrote on a subreddit asking for a secret. My secret is I never, EVER wanted children. And I don’t even really like them. The I added I have a 16 year old daughter and am committed to her but can’t wait for her to be gone( as in moved out)

For context, my daughter has ADHD, ODD, steals from me, constantly lies and manipulates, refuses to go to school, has assaulted over ten times, and it’s gotten to the point I can’t do it anymore. Her biological father has never helped raise her and he and his family tricked me into getting pregnant by not revealing he was illegal until AFTER I was pregnant. This probably seems so stupid but I come from a tiny, Iowa town with NO diversity and was living in. Suburb of Washington DC. I had no idea you could live and work here under fake papers.

She’s been placed in PMIC care, the courts just pursued an assault charge on her for beating the crap out of me. She’s just been ramping up and it’s no longer safe for me in my home. Her biological father (who I went to court for to help him earn his legality even though we split when my daughter was 1 1/2 yrs old and I’ve raised her solo since, with no child support because I didn’t want to risk him being deported)- he has offered to take her to live with him and his wife. She has two younger siblings now. The police officers and youth enforcement officer have all agreed if she doesn’t go there she needs to go into Foster Care because there really isn’t space I. Juvenile care facilities.

Yet I said I can’t wait for her to be gone, Reddit users who have no idea about my situation are flooding out of the wood work to say I’m “harsh” and they thought I was joking but since I’m not that cold.

Is it wrong to no longer want to care for a teenager who constantly physically and verbally abuses you? I’ll miss her terribly, but my quality of life is so terrible. I see a psychiatrist and a counselor. Everyone is in agreement we need space.

I don’t know. Maybe this was a vent and I forget that the only time people on Reddit aren’t total jerks is when I post cat photos.