Husband(M42) wants to go on international vacation with his family while I’m (F40) 6.5 months pregnant

I’m (F40) struggling with my husband (M42). I had originally posted about this thinking this was an issue with my in-laws, but I’ve realized the issue is with my husband and me.

In short, it seemed to me that my husband’s parents and brother invited themselves on our babymoon (I will be 26-28 weeks pregnant on our travels). I had made it very clear to my husband that I wasn’t interested in a family trip. He assured me that wouldn’t be the case and that we’d only have to see them for a limited amount of time.

After several fights on the topic, my husband asked that we spend some additional time with his family. I told him I was fine with them tagging along to do what we were doing, but that I wasn’t interested in doing anything I didn’t want to do or change my plans for them.

After another fight, my husband finally admitted that he didn’t address this sooner because he didn’t want to hear what I had to say and that we have certain obligations to our families. He wants me to be close with his family and he feels like limiting our time with them on this vacation could cause problems. I think he is asking for a lot for me to make more compromises than I already have offered with this vacation. The location we’re going is only because his family has a connection to it. It’s an 11 hour flight and I have to take and 8+ hour round trip train to get to where my in-laws will be. There’s no other reason I’d go to that location. I’m trying to express the level of physical discomfort I could be in at this point in my pregnancy and I feel like he isn’t recognizing that.

I’m feeling unsupported and I’m very concerned about being prioritized on this trip and in the future. I don’t even want to think about the baby and my fears abound that.

What is the compromise when we don’t see eye to eye on family obligations?

See original post in the inlaws subreddit for more crazy context.

TLDR: Husband thinks spending time with in-laws on extravagant international vacation is obligation.