am I an overthinker?

It's been more than a year since I asked that question in this same community and well... We broke up because he cheated on me and after months of thinking and zero contact I realized that I was actually on a very abusive relationship... To anyone who reads this hear me out: not always is your fault try looking the situation from every point of view, please don't let someone treat you like trash and think is your fault somehow. Emotional dependency and manipulation can blind us really bad, and sometimes just after a really long time you can look back and see all the things that were wrong. I wasn't overthinking, he was cheating, all my insecurities were there because he make me feel that way and I wasn't being redundant about something meaningless, I just wanted him to have the bare minimum of respect to me. Hope this helps someone