Husband can't be bothered to make me orgasm, advice?

I wanted to give an update to the situation. The orginal post is still below.

Firstly, thank you to everyone that commented. While I may not agree with everything everyone said, I do really appreciate people offering their opinions and advice. So thank you.

Therapy: I see a psychologist once a week, the wait list for therapy is incredibly long in my country. He is open to going to therapy, and I support his decision. Unfortunately it is still a wait.

I don't agree with people saying he's an asshole or dosen't care about me. He does care, and he isn't an asshole. He shows affection in different ways through out the day. He did admit to being selfish in bed. The comment who said he might be intimidated about not making me orgasm was pretty spot on. I hadn't thought of that, and it gave me a different way to think/approach things.

We had a really good long chat that lasted a few hours. We opened up a fair bit about how we can both improve in ways to be a better partner to each other. Neither of us want to, or are considering divorce.

Overal, I really do appreciate the comments, especially the ones who encouraged a different approach to find out if something else was going on. Our relationship will continue to improve :) thank you!!

I hope this is the right subreddit to post to, I genuinley don't know what to do. I did try to post this on other reddits but it wouldn't let me.

I (28F) and husband (33M) have been together 5 years, married for 2 years. Long story short, he just dosen't bother to make me orgasm.

I've purchased toys, lingere, done different things to excite him. But he falls asleep when it's my turn for pleasure. I can orgasm rather quickly on my own, but it's reached a point of anxiety for me if he's present.

If I go first, he falls asleep. When I suggest him picking a toy, he makes it feel like a chore. Majority of the time he dosen't offer any sort of sexual intimacy towards me. The most I get is some kissing, nothing else. He mostly falls asleep.

We've had numerous talks. It's reached a point I've told him to buy a flashlight. I dont wanna fuck him anymore if making me orgasm is a chore. Everything else in our life is perfect. I dont want a divorce.

What do I do?