Mentally prepping for surgery, any words of wisdom/advice?

Hey everyone, (unfortunately) a new member of this sub. I'm 32m and in the next couple weeks after a final round of scans/tests we are going to finalize our surgical plan. Right now the plan is a hybrid surgery: L5-S1 fusion and an ADR at L4. When I was in high school I was in a car accident that caused a compression fracture at L5 and over the years it has unfortunately gotten worse and harder to manage flare ups. We've tried everything conventional (PT, medication, injections, STEM cell/BMAC) and we are thinking it's time to take this step.

I've been skimming the subreddit the last few days since my last appointment and have seen a mix of experiences, aside from the consistent advice of buying a grabber what else you got for me? How bad is the recovery actually? How long did you actively need assistance around the house? My surgeon seems confident we are looking at a 1-2 night stay, and getting back to normal activities by 3-4 months