Should I dilate even though technically I can have piv?

For 9 years I’ve struggled with varying levels of tightness and pain during sex. Sometimes it’s bad and sometimes it’s barely an issue (being careful of course). I got a dilator set after my doctor told me I had vaginismus but never used it. Here’s the thing, i can have sex but it is tight, can be painful (not always). My partner is technically thicker than my new dilator set but would it still help? My doctor said they’d refer me to pelvic floor therapy so I’m hopeful for that. I just know I still need help. Like sometimes when if flares up it feels like someone’s stabbing me, just because I can have sex doesn’t mean I’m all the way there. What’s your experiences?