Has anyone else found wedding planning spaces to be super judgemental?

Im planning my wedding for next year and joined heaps of different wedding subs in the lead up. I feel like all I read are no-nos or etiquette or what’s ‘appropriate’, and it feels like everyone who posts an idea that’s ‘quirky’ or ‘artsy’ get shut down or roasted. Like even in wedding dress subs people can just be so cruel? I thought these wedding subs would be a cool way of sharing ideas but all it feels like is a fun vacuum where traditionalists just like telling other people off. Has anyone else go that vibe or just me?