Any other women experience bartholyn gland pain?

I've been to the gyno about this several times over the many years with zero answers. Once or twice I had a bartholyn cyst that got bigger than a golf ball and exploded on the way to get medical help. Before and after that, if I get aroused (even just sitting minding my own business) it hurts a lot. The only thing I can relate it to would be like blue balls im guessing? Idk but it's really painful I'm 30, been going thru this for over a decade and can't get any help. I can't remember if this ever happened before I was ever penetrated with something but I do believe it started happening after I lost my virginity. I don't feel it's normal as I've searched online and don't see any thing that suggests other women also have this problem.

Do any other women experience this? Maybe you have afforded a better doctor than I have been able to and you got the correct diagnosis and know what this is? Please help. It's embarrassing and painful. Imagine thinking someone is hot and your vagina just starts stinging in pain.