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2025-03-22 20:44:45

should i have one more child?

The urge for me has never gone away. I wanted 6. We agreed on 4. We stopped at 3. As much as I say now at 48 I would go crazy if I got pregnant with a 4th (mine at 21, 18 and 17) I would be thrilled.

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Initially i wanted 2, but we had 3 and now husband wants 4. This is what i'm scared of, being older and wishing i had one more after my biological clock has run out. Also the guilt of not giving my husband one more. He has even tried to bribe me by saying he will pay for a tummy tuck (i hate my post baby body) and stay up at nights with the baby lol

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Here is something we did. Take a piece of paper or even on computer notepad. One side list the positive reason for having another and on the other side put the negatives. Also consider your partner's reasons. If it is more of an urge than genuine reasons, it may not be a good idea. I went through something similar when our youngest started full day school.

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Thanks, that is really helpful, i will try this. My partners reasons are he just wants more kids, but that also makes me feel guilty because i feel like i'm denying him his rights to have more kids lol sounds dumb since i'm the one going through the pregnancy not him. But i feel like maybe he will resent me if i don't change my mind and have one more. He works hard and i don't have to do much at home and he always supports me financially so it makes me feel so guilty.

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